“The Girls”
The dream of an intact family vanished. The children have moved forward, though they are changed forever. When a child of whatever age believes he is a part of a secure and loving, two-parent home and when that child wakes up the next morning to discover he is wrong, that child is forever changed. When a dream is lost, what can be gained?
God can take loss and turns it into gain. God can take down and flip it up. God can move minus into plus. God was at work changing my life before I knew it. God dissolved my pain and gave me a future. God removed my misplaced trust and offered me self-worth. God calmed my fear and bestowed His peace.
What good can come from a lost dream, lost intimacy, a lost marriage? Hang on to your belief system, because God can turn anything into good for those who love him. I further encourage you to walk through open doors, and reconnect with your girlfriends. Unlike men, we girls thrive on friendships and there is nothing, no relationship more special that that between “sisters.” We are always there for each other. Find your resting place and take comfort with “the girls.”
Social Life – to encourage a newly divorced diva
Book Clubs <a href:http://www.bookclub.com > </a> Bunco Clubs Bridge Clubs Girls Night Out activities
Invest in a bedside reading lamp. Pour yourself a cup of hot chocolate or a glass of wine. Plump up the multitude of pillows you can now strew across your bedding. Lean back, sip, read, and enjoy the peace, quiet, and solitude.
Consider these selections:
Sweet Potato Queens Book of Love – Brown <a href:http://www.sweetpotatoqueens.com > </a>
Same Sweet Girls- King
Secret Life of Bees- Kidd Memoirs of a Geisha – Golden Someone to Watch Over Me – McNaught
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Consider these authors:
Navada Barr <a href: http://www.navadabarr.com > </a> Janet Evanovich James Patterson Anita Shreve Stuart Woods Richard North Patterson Barbara Delinsky Nora Roberts Danielle Steele
Try these Classics:
Jane Austen -Pride and Prejudice, Sense and Sensability, Persuasion
When a week or two pass, you might realize that you have control over the “puncher.” You can decide when to change the channel and what program to watch on television.
After a while, you can actually throw your leg over a little bit and claim an entire bed. Why do you think the mattress is “Queen-size?”After about six months, you can clean out the chest of drawers. Get a good size, black, heavy-duty garbage bag and have a wonderful day. Speak to each item as you toss it into the trash. Lay claim to more space for your sexy and colorful lingerie.
After a year or so, you can clean out clothes and shoes. It’s time to have a party and celebrate with “Hers and Hers” closets. After a number of years, the pain, however great, diminishes. The stark reality of the divorce does not change, but clarity of focus and eyes of truth open. Remember that God has plans for good.
